It is and always has been about one (upsmanship no pun intended) and social power grabs from behind  the guise of equality.  It is about childishness and counting marbles like a child who is afraid he/she might get one less than the next kid.

Recent studies indicate the women STILL after years of "equal rights" by in large marry UP rarely across and almost never down the social ladder.  Money, status and prestige seem to be the driving force more so than any other single reason.  Then too all one has to do is look at the motivational forces behind the "religiosity" of feminism and it becomes readily apparant that it is about double standard, bean counting and social power. 

A simple example is the ages old argument of the dirty rotten man who won't put the toilet seat down.  One often wonders how many if any women who make such arguments ever pause to consider demonstrating the same courtsey in return?  Almost none.  Then look across the social spectrum and examine how many other areas in life the same double standard exists in their relationships.

One then needs to define exactly what qualifies a male as "a good man"....and often it is the lopsidedness of yielding, catering, spoiling and giving in while the woman does what she wants, when she wants and how she wants.  All one way.  Then she decides ahead of time what she will do for the man and the man is often expected to believe she is somehow doing him a favor, while the reality is she is doing for herself and her own image acting like this is some supreme sacrafice.  Not too different than what I call the Tom Sawyer principle where he cons is friends into white washing Aunt Polly's fence and paying him to be allowed to do so because it is so much fun.

Then let's ponder the origin of the imbalance in our society and one can readily see that it was the women who voluntarily gave up their jobs back in the forties and fities when the war was over.  It was the women who raised the children and created the social gender differentiations and passed on their closet hatred of "all men" (as my own mother often touts) to their daughters.  No where is this lopsided "blame game" more apparant than in a discussion I had with a died in the wool feminist one day when she was bemoaning the use and wearing of high heels....stating that it was a MAN (snide insult was intoned) who invented them.  My response was yeah, that may have been, and I went shopping that past weekend and must have seen at least a dozen couples (male/female) out shopping and every man was holding a gun to his woman's head MAKING her buy those horrible high heels.  Too proud to admit that it is vanity, pride and competition amonst women that prompts that kind of purchasing.  Easier to blame the male.

Taking all this into consideration why would anyone "in their right mind" want to put up with any of it when the first place that attitude becomes apparant is in the bedroom? A man who knows the difference between being unified with a woman, spiritually and emotionally bonded (which is what marriage actually is) and the "social contract" much like bartering for goods and services would not KNOWINGLY give someone who functions like that the time of day.  So once again the real onus is on the woman herself who for whatever reason carries that kind of attitude around.  Not the men who reject her.

Then, ask yourselves one question, when a man struts like he is god's gift to women, and acts like he is doing them a favor is he actually considered attractive by women?  Is he (self centered as he may be) really any good in bed?  Then doesn't it stand the test of reason that when a woman adopts that same attitude for the sake of socially showing off that the same holds true?

I, being that I am in my fifties,  don't want to have to deal with someone who is "set in her way" unyeilding, and rigid who acts like it is her duty to provide services to me for whatever reason.  Nor do I care to spend the rest of my life locked to someone who will only do what she wants, when she wants, how she wants and acts like anything else requires negotiation, barter and great sacrifice.  When I have encountered that kind of attitude in women, I have simply asked that they do themselves and me a favor and take it somewhere else, stating that they have nothing but limited controlled access to fifty percent of the sex equation to offer in return for putting up with all the social nonesense.  And quite frankly, the absolute best that can come from anyone (male or female) who carries such attitudes around with them is minimal mediocrity.  Speaking only for myself, I will choose NOTHING before settling for minimal mediocrity for the rest of my life. 

I KNOW better, because I have literally lived marriage for what it really is not the quai-legal prostitution that so many hide behind the government licenses so they can "make it legal"

She died in my arms and our last kiss was literally her last breath, and the modern feminist couldn't hold a candle to the courage, integrity, tenderness and passion that woman carried with her to the grave.

Finally when one finds that their quasi-legal prostitution (marriage) is lacking in passion, spontaneousness and tenderness?  Look in the mirror.  The road blocks, the conditions, the criteria you place in front of you in the name of your feminism is the cause...and it isn't the dirty rotten male's (or little boy who doesn't know any better) responsiblity to overcome, make up the difference or magically go under, around or through.....this IMMEDIATELY stops that energy that is the beauty of being spirituall bonded from flowing.

A final example of the kind of barter of which I speak?  One day a young woman "feminist" by her own claim stated to me, that she wouldn't date or marry a man who didn't earn at least as much if not more than she did?  I asked her if I could use that same criteria to which she smuggly replied that I could.  When I asked her how much money she earned I quickly told her that by that criteria she wasn't good enough for me because I actually earned twice what she did.  Her immediate response was, "Well, thats different" to which I querried Why?  She stomped off in a huff and tossed back over her shoulder that I wasn't going to find a woman who would be "nice" to me.  To which I respoinded rhetorically, "You mean sleep with me?"

The problem with feminism or any of the ism's and so-called social divisions is that under the guise of cultural diversity the bigotry and divisiveness has been kept alive for forty years each side trying to one up the other under the guise of equality. 

After Martin Luther Kings assassignation for "human rights" there is not one iota of reason for any one to be differentiating themselves first and foremost by race, creed, religion, gender or sexual preference.  Those who do are literally practicing discrimination (by the real definition of the word) and as such will NEVER have my respect, regardless of whatever isolated incidences they toss out to justify that double standard. 

Be a human being, have integrity, be open honest, sincere, open and willing to practice what you preach or go pound sand.